There is something beautiful about getting lost in the moment to the most undeniably sacred part of your body – the indescribable feeling of having an orgasm. If you’re not sure if you have ever had one – chances are you probably haven’t. These aren’t things you talk to your friends about on a daily basis so how do you know if you’ve achieved the big “O”? Here’s the inside scoop on how to make it happen.
Most women have so many things on their minds – work, kids, dates, working out, etc. There isn’t enough time in the day for most of us, so I can understand how you can get a little caught up – but your vagina doesn’t. You need to give yourself time to clear your head and just enjoy yourself. Try new things, buy a hand held mirror, and get acquainted with your vagina. Touch yourself and explore and figure out what you like. You can’t expect others to know what you like if you don’t know yourself. Take the time to give yourself pleasure and release some tension. Don’t go into it thinking you won’t have an orgasm, because you wont.
Remember all women are different.
Don’t listen to your friends when they tell you what you need. What works for them might not work for you. Take their suggestion and try it out, but don’t think you’re weird if it doesn’t work for you. All women’s bodies are different and what works for some people doesn’t work for others, and vice versa. It is all about getting to know what you like. Don’t follow what you see on TV or what your friends think you need, figure out what works best for you.
Every woman has one, but that doesn’t mean every woman can have an orgasm through just g-spot stimulation. This is where getting to know your body will work to your benefit. Only about 30% of women can have orgasms through just intercourse. Even with that 82% of women use clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. Some women say its more intense with it, some women say they can’t have an orgasm without it. If you are having a hard time you can also look into things that are more topical like stimulating gels. They bring blood to the service so they make you more sensitive and sometimes can help push you over to having those more intense orgasms.
It takes women longer to get aroused.
Most men are very different then women in this way. To where some men can be fully aroused in a matter of a few minutes, some women can take up to 20 minutes to reach their arousal peek. Most women need a lot more warming up before completely diving into intercourse. Foreplay is something that will help guide you along to make it a more enjoyable experience. Even when you are playing by yourself, massage the entire body. The best part about vibrators is that they can work for massage as well. If you find a nice hand held vibrator you can use it to start at your shoulders and work your way down. Give attention to the nipples and slowly work your way down to your clitoris and vagina. Take your time and give each erogenous zone attention.
The great thing about being a woman is that once you get things started, you can have more than just one orgasm. They don’t always have to happen one right after another – as long as you keep yourself aroused and stimulated you have the ability to an endless opportunity. The idea of multiple orgasms doesn’t seem like a possible thing to a lot of women, but you would be surprised. Don’t take sex so seriously, enjoy whatever is pleasuring you and try to keep it going. Don’t let your arousal start to dip after one orgasm keep the sexy thoughts flowing, and the caresses going and as long as you keep yourself completely aroused you will find you can achieve more intense stimulation and multiple orgasms.
Try playing around with some different toys if you can. Trying a few different types of vibrators that are not only for g-spot, but also clitoral. Try going around the clitoris as well as directly on it. Use pressure, try lighter touches, or more of a flicking sensation like oral sex. Most women have had their first orgasms through oral sex, so try a toy that simulates oral.
There are definitely things that can contribute to a woman not being able to have an orgasm. If you are taking any type of anti-depressants or different medications talk to your doctor. Sometimes side effects from different types of medications can really reduce your sex drive as well as sensitivity.
Either way don’t judge your orgasms based on what you’ve heard from your friends, or what you’ve seen on TV – take them however they come! Whether it’s multiple, or just one, whether it’s incredibly intense or slow duller feeling. An orgasm is an orgasm – enjoy them whenever you get them!