I’ve lost count when it comes to the amount of women who tell me they don’t need lubricant, or at least think they don’t. Don’t get me wrong some women honestly produce a good amount of their own personal lubricant, but isn’t that usually after you get started?
I always suggest using lubricant to keep things more comfortable, especially in the beginning. Since a woman can take up to 20 minutes to reach her arousal peak, I can’t imagine that lubricant would go unnoticed. In the beginning using a lube can just make things more pleasurable for the fact that things move in and out a lot more smoothly.
There are quite a few different types of lubricants, and it can get confusing knowing which one to purchase, with the millions that are out in stores, or the billions online. I’m here to help!
The most popular is water-based – although there are also silicone lubricants, hybrid lubricants, and oils. Depending on different circumstances there are different reasons of why you would need to use one, rather than the other in different situations.
For example; if you are using a silicone vibrator, you only want to use a water-based lubricant. If you use a silicone lube with a silicone vibe, you are more likely to have to worry about it breaking apart, and overtime becoming unusable.
We decided to write this article to inform people of when and why to use water-based lube, the difference between water-based and the others, and some pros and cons. It is always important to keep in mind that everyone is different, what works for others might not work for you. With all things involving sex it is important to experiment, and try new things. This will in the end find you the perfect lubricant that works well, and makes your moment even that much more exciting.
Water-based lubricants are some of the most popular for the fact that it’s usually thinner, easier clean-up, seems like the safer option for the fact that it’s water-based, and is the one you want to use with toys. With all good there tends to be a few lousy features, as well. It’s important to remember that when using toys, oils and silicone lubricants are bad for them. It can eat away at the material and overtime it will deteriorate your toy. Water-based lube also tends to not last very long, leaving you to have to reapply it while having intercourse.
Apart from that it gets a little bit stickier. A lot of times water-based lubricants will have glycerin in it, which gives it that really soft, silky feeling. Although in reality it also makes it sticky, especially after manipulating it for a while. Not to mention since it’s watery, it’s a lot easier to run all over the place.
It’s important to start with a little bit, and reapply as needed. This will keep you cleaner while using it, and create less of a mess. The good thing about water-based lube is that you don’t really have to worry about clean up. With any silicone, hybrid, or oil – you usually have to shower afterwards. Luckily water-based absorbs into the skin instead of sitting on top so you have a much easier time afterwards.
Some women have an issue with water-based lubes, because they have bad reactions to them sometimes – especially with brands like KY, Astroglide, or Slippery Stuff to name a few. Most often times it is the glycerin in the lubricant that can cause UTI’s, and yeast infections, etc. If you’re more sensitive and/or are prone to getting UTI’s or yeast infections, try a lubricant without glycerin.
The glycerin in the lube tends to mess around with your PH balances that can in terms give you infections. If you’re constantly battling infections, and either have sex a lot (could also be the condom if you’re using any), or masturbate with the same lube a lot, try changing it up. A more sensitive glycerin-free lubricant might be much more efficient, and completely worth every penny.
Last, but not least – look for lubricants that have the original formula. There is a standard for lubricants when they are formulated and put out on the shelves, it is consistently being updated, and making lubricants safer for women. Some bigger companies tend to fall below the standards after being on the shelves for a long time. What they do is take their products off the shelves, reformulate them, and put them back out. So you never know if you’re getting the same lubricants.
The water-based lubricants I suggest are reputable brands, that I believe are the best, and better than what you will find in a drug store. Try them out – leave a comment letting me know what you think if you try one! Or if you have a favorite that you love, even if it’s not on here – tell us about it and why! Women need to stick together when it comes to lubricants that are safer, and easier on our bodies.
System Jo – Agape
- System Jo Agape is a water-based lubricant that is glycerin, glycol, and paraben free. Great for women who are a more sensitive.
- Very light, soft, and thin lubricant for an almost barely there feel.
- Perfect for a daily lubricant that can be used during intercourse and masturbation – as well as anal play.
- Also works amazing with any type of vibrators, silicone, jelly, hard plastic – doesn’t leave a sticky residue.
- Meant to imitate a women’s personal lubricant.
- Safe to use with condoms.
- Sliquid H20 is one of the safer, more natural water-based lubricants around. Known for being 100% glycerin and paraben free, as well as vegan.
- Uses natural ingredients!
- In 2012 won the XBIZ award – Sex Lubricant Company of the Year.
- Original Formula.
- Safe for use with all vibrators, and condoms.
- No flavors or scents, you also never have to worry about it staining.
- No stickiness or extra clean up.
Shibari Intimate Lubricant
- Shibari Intimate Lubricant is better for those of you who are not very sensitive. If you are more sensitive we would suggest going with one of the two options above.
- Very much like a woman’s personal lubricant, very soft and smooth feeling when applied.
- Very light smell and taste. Some describe it as being similar to black licorice, which I could see, but its very faint.
- Since this lubricant is thinner, you will most likely have to apply it a little bit more during sexual intercourse.
- Can get a little stickier than other lubricants.
- Safe for use with vibrators and condoms.
- Reviews from women with sensitive skin say it even works great for them, but still beware. If you want to try, but are sensitive, I would suggest starting with just a little bit in a secluded spot. See how your skin reacts to it between your legs, and go from there.
Hello Sailor Water Based Lubricant
- Hello Sailor Water Based Lubricant is a great option for just about everyone. Paraben and glycerin free, its more lightweight, giving you the slickness needed without using a huge glob.
- No odor or taste gives this one a bit of an advantage. It makes it easy to transition to oral or intercourse without having to worry about a strange taste.
- It tends to be on the thicker side, if you prefer it to be thinner, I would suggest choosing something more similar to the Jo Agape or Shibari.
- Thicker lubricants tend to last longer while using with toys, or with a partner. Even though you don’t need to use as much, the texture just tends to keep around a little bit longer than thinner options.
- Made in the USA!
- The Hello Sailor lube has a lot of good feedback on Amazon.
- Pump top is a little easier to deal with when your in the moment and need lube fast. On the other hand, to lock it you will need to pump it down which may cause you to waste a little more.